True, I would always prefer that my father ’sleeps out’ to my mother. This is because it’s more easily bearable than the thought of any many with my mom…let me just end it here.

But know this about me, even in the midst of the burning temptation to stray from my partner, I endeavour to hang on. I believe in the end that this will better my relationship.

this is not to attribute any perfection to myself: it’s just my small sacrifice, amongst many others, for the one I love.

(I know some of my arguments might be politically incorrect, but I take the risk anyway).

1. The issue of the relative desirability of monogamy versus polygamy, I think, is one that is related to any given society’s values. It would appear that most of the world’s societies today lean towards monogamy. This might be rooted in the influence of religions (particularly Christianity), and economic realities. Again, this is an issue that related (mostly) to any given society’s value judgments….

2. Since our contemporary society espouses a one man, one wife marriage construct, we can all agree that the best-case scenario is for the man and his wife to live a life in total and absolute commitment to each other, literally “till death do them part.” We can all agree though that the reality is that more often than not, the man and the wife do not meet this standard (the state-of-affairs which I infer prompted your write-up in the first place). Compare these two societies: “olden days” Nigeria in which a man would openly and formally marry a second (or third) wife, and (attempt to) “love all equally” versus “modern day” America/UK (even Nigeria) where a man marries one wife and carries on a sexual affair with women outside. Who’s kidding who? While both scenarios are less desirable than the perfect one man, one wife construct, which is more offensive?

3. At the risk of coming across as sexist or chauvinist, it would almost appear that nature pushes the male human species towards polygamy, than not. The instinctive male imperative (and this is true with most animal species) is inarguable: euphemistically, to sow his wild oats as widely as possible. As previously agreed, the modern human male’s imperative is curtailed by the (effeminized) society’s dictate of one man, one wife… and also, importantly, be economic realities. On the issue of the parity of male and female infidelity, let me pose a question: on the pain of having a bullet put through your head, would you rather your father sleep with another woman or your mother sleep with another man?